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How to Apologize to Your Kids

on July 14, 2015


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How to apologize to your kids is sometimes a touchy subject for moms and dads. I think it would be remiss of me, though, if I ignored it or sloughed over it. As good parents that we are, we teach our children to act in acceptable ways by helping them understand what their mistakes are, make amends for the repercussions, and then plan to avoid the faux pas in the future.

Shouldn’t the same pattern apply to us when we make a parenting mistake??????

Perhaps we yelled in a loud voice. Perhaps we took toys away before really listening to our kids’ side of the story. Perhaps we ignored their pleas to be heard. Even the best parents, at some point, make mistakes.

Believe me, it won’t hurt your authority over your family one bit to gather up your crying child, give her a big hug and, offer a heartfelt apology. Your young ones respect and love for you in this instance will not be undone because you sincerely admit you made a mistake. On the contrary, it will be made stronger and strengthen your already great relationship. By offering a genuine apology, you are modeling humility and validating any confusion and pain they are experiencing.

Follow these short and easy steps if you are in need of some help when the need arises for how to apologize to your kids.

1. Take them aside, and genuinely tell them you are sorry.

2. Explain that you over reacted, and that your action was wrong.

3. Reassure them that you love them, and that you want to be a good parent.

4. Ask for their forgiveness.

Apologizing to your children takes strength, confidence, and humility. You are giving them a beautiful gift when you reconcile with your kids. You are showing them that they are valuable, and they are worthy of an apology. Their self-esteem will blossom as a result. You are also setting an example that teaches them to apologize to others. Think of the benefits for their future careers, marriages, and families. Habits of honesty and forgiveness will lead to a more peaceful environment at home. The choice is up to you, now, mom and dad!


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